Q.    Does your cemetery allow the type of memorial that you desire?  

A.    Most if not all cemeteries have rules regarding memorials and some cemeteries are very specific with what they will allow in their cemeteries. 

Q.    Does the cemetery have a length restriction?  

A.    Most if not all cemeteries control the length of the memorial to ensure that the memorial does not infringe on the adjoining lot and to allow for the planting of gardens and shrubs. 

Q.    Does the cemetery have a height restriction?  

A.    Most, if not all cemeteries have a height restriction. Each cemetery looks at this differently. Most have a rule which regulates the overall height to 2 1/2 to 3 feet. Others may be more or less. 

Q.    Does the cemetery require a certain thickness of memorial?  

A.   Most cemeteries require that upright memorials be at least 6" thick. More and more cemeteries require that upright memorials be at least 8" thick. Some cemeteries have a height to thickness rule which requires that if your memorial is over a certain height then it must increase in thickness. 

Q.    How many graves must you purchase for the cemetery to allow an upright memorial?  

A.    Some cemeteries will allow an upright memorial on a single grave. Other cemeteries will force you to purchase two or more graves should you wish an upright memorial. Some cemeteries will not allow upright memorials on cremation graves. Others do allow upright memorials but you may have to purchase two or more cremation graves. 

Q.    Does the cemetery allow for winter internments?  

A.    Some cemeteries, usually smaller country cemeteries require that there be no internments once the frost has entered the ground and there will be no further internments until the frost leaves the ground in the spring. Some cemeteries have a surcharge for winter burials. 

Q.    Does the cemetery plow the roads in winter?  

A.   Check this out carefully. You may want to visit the gravesite during the winter months only to find out that the roads are never plowed or only plowed when there is a burial taking place. 

Q.    Does the cemetery allow for additional internments of cremated remains on top of burials?  

A.    Some cemeteries do not allow for the internment of cremated remains on top of a burial. Others allow only one, two or even three and some cemeteries allow for an unlimited number of cremated remains on top of an in-ground burial. This is an important piece of information especially if one member of your family wants a regular in-ground burial but the rest want cremation. Remember that this is when the memorial rules come into play. If the cemetery allows for one burial and three cremations in each grave then the memorial rules must allow for a memorial that is large enough to handle all the information for four people. 

Q.    Does the cemetery install its own markers or is it left up the memorial builder?  

A.    Some cemeteries have a rule which states that only the cemetery is allowed to install Flat Grass Markers. Others may have a surcharge to mark out the location so that the monument builder can install the marker in the proper location himself. 

Q.    Does the cemetery install its own foundations under the memorials or is it left up to the memorial builder?  

A.    Foundations are concrete footings which are usually dug to a depth of at least 4 feet and most times 5 feet. They are usually the same size as the base stone and sometimes the cemeteries require that there be a concrete border extending out 3 inches to 4 inches on all four sides. The foundation is a very important part of the memorial. It must be deep enough to ensure that it is below frost levels and that it will not heave up and down with frost. Be sure that the foundation is installed properly. In larger cemeteries the cemetery staff installs the foundations. In smaller cemeteries it is left up to the monument builder. If the cemetery itself does not install the foundations they will want to stake out the lot to be sure that the memorial is going to be installed in the proper location. 

                           Cemetery Lot Ownership Flowchart 

                              [These ownership rules apply to Ontario only.] 

On the flowchart below, you will see that John and Mary Smith purchased an eight (8) grave lot sometime in the past. John and Mary had three (3) children, there were two (2) daughters and one (1) son. Each of their children had two (2) children. 
Assume that John and Mary have passed away not mentioning the cemetery lots in their wills. 
Ownership of the lot remains with all three of their children and their spouses. 
Assume that their daughter Judy who married Bob Green passes away and then Bob dies. The lot ownership stays with the remaining generation, in this case, Jean and her husband Bill White and Roy Smith and his wife Mary.  Bob and Judy Green's children do not automatically move up to the ownership level when their parents die. They will have to wait until the complete second 
generation dies off and at that point all six kids in the third generation move up to ownership. 
This is how ownership goes unless someone leaves ownership to someone else by way of a will. 
Let's suppose that Bob and Judy Green and Bill and Jean White and Roy Smith all pass away. Then let's assume that Mary (Blue) Smith remarries someone. Because she was the last remaining person in that generation then she can will the lot ownership to whomever she wants. It doesn't have to flow automatically to persons in the next generation.